Divorce is never easy. It can feel like your world has been turned upside down, leaving you uncertain, hurt, and struggling to find a sense of purpose. But it can also be a time for new beginnings—a chance to rediscover yourself and start fresh. If you’re feeling lost, check out our guide on starting fresh after divorce for actionable tips.
One way to shift your focus and bring excitement back into your life is by creating a post-divorce “bucket list.” A bucket list is simply a list of things you want to do, see, or experience. It doesn’t have to be filled with big, life-changing events; it can include small, everyday joys. The idea is to set goals that bring happiness, adventure, and a sense of accomplishment.
Why Create a Post-Divorce Bucket List?
When you go through a tough experience like divorce, it’s easy to lose sight of who you are and what makes you happy. A bucket list can help you reconnect with yourself and give you something to look forward to. If you’re struggling with grief or emotional healing, our post on coping with the emotional stages of divorce may also help.
Filling your bucket list with goals, dreams, and activities that excite you can give you purpose, lift your spirits, and remind you that life is still full of possibilities. For those exploring ways to boost self-esteem after divorce, check out our article on building confidence and self-worth.
Getting Started: How to Create Your Post-Divorce Bucket List
Creating a bucket list isn’t complicated. Just follow these steps to get started:
- Reflect on What Brings You Joy
Take a moment to think about what makes you happy. It could be anything—from exploring new places to trying a new hobby or spending more time with loved ones. If you’re unsure, our post on finding joy in simple pleasures might give you some inspiration. - Dream Big (and Small)
Include a mix of goals. Some can be small, like cooking a new recipe, while others might be bigger, like traveling to a place you’ve always wanted to visit. Need ideas for big dreams? Explore our list of life-changing travel destinations. - Set Goals for Growth
Think about areas of your life you want to improve. Do you want to become more confident, healthy, or social? Maybe you want to learn a new skill or join a group. Adding goals that help you grow as a person can make your list even more meaningful. For more ideas, read our article on personal growth after divorce. - Write It Down
Writing your list down is powerful. It makes your goals feel real and gives you something to look at and get excited about. Whether you keep it in a journal, on your phone, or as a vision board, having your list in front of you will keep you motivated. Not sure how to start journaling? Check out our guide on journaling for emotional healing. - Take Small Steps
Start with one or two items on your list. You don’t need to do everything at once; take your time and go at your own pace. Every time you complete something, take a moment to celebrate. For ideas on celebrating milestones, read our post on the importance of small wins.
Ideas for Your Post-Divorce Bucket List
Here are some ideas to help you create your bucket list. Choose activities that resonate with your interests and goals:
- Travel and Adventure
- Visit a new city or country
- Take a solo road trip
- Try an adventure sport, like kayaking or rock climbing
- Personal Growth and Learning
- Take a course in something that interests you
- Learn a new language or skill
- Health and Wellness
- Join a fitness class
- Create a daily self-care routine
- Creative Outlets
- Start a journal to document your journey
- Try a creative hobby like painting or photography
- Connection and Community
- Reconnect with an old friend
- Volunteer for a cause you care about
- Simple Joys
- Watch a classic movie you’ve never seen
- Treat yourself to a “me day”
For more ideas, explore our curated list of activities to reignite your joy post-divorce.
How a Bucket List Can Help You Heal
Completing items on your bucket list isn’t just about checking things off—it’s about creating moments of happiness and building confidence. Every time you accomplish something, you’re proving to yourself that you’re capable, strong, and ready to embrace life again. If you’re feeling stuck, our tips on overcoming post-divorce challenges can help you take the first step.
Final Thoughts: Take One Step at a Time
Remember, your post-divorce journey is unique, and there’s no “right” way to move forward. Go at your own pace, and don’t put pressure on yourself to do it all at once. Your bucket list is a tool for joy, growth, and resilience. Use it as a guide to rediscover who you are and what makes you happy. Need additional support? Explore our free divorce recovery resources.
