Digital Stalking: How to Protect Your Online Presence After Divorce

In today’s digital world, it’s easy to stay connected, but this can also lead to unwanted attention—especially during or after a divorce. Sometimes, an ex-partner might try to monitor your online activity, which is known as digital stalking. This can feel invasive and stressful, especially when you're trying to move forward in life.

The good news is that you can take steps to protect your online presence and regain control over your privacy. In this post, we’ll explain what digital stalking is, how to spot it, and practical ways to safeguard your digital life.

If you're looking for more general advice on dealing with difficult situations during divorce, check out our Guide to Setting Boundaries After Divorce.

What Is Digital Stalking?

Digital stalking happens when someone uses technology to monitor or track your online activities. This could include:

• Checking your social media accounts for updates or interactions.
• Using spyware or tracking software to monitor your phone or computer.
• Following your movements through location-sharing apps.
• Trying to hack your accounts or devices.

While digital stalking might seem less obvious than physical stalking, it can be just as harmful, making you feel like your privacy has been taken away.

How to Recognize Digital Stalking

Here are some signs that you might be a victim of digital stalking:

• Your ex knows things about your life that you haven’t shared with them.
• You notice strange activity on your accounts, like messages you didn’t send or posts you didn’t make.
• Your phone or computer is slower than usual, which could mean spyware is installed.
• You see unexpected logins to your accounts from unfamiliar locations.

If you’re dealing with stalking of any kind, our Tips for Handling Stalking During Divorce offer valuable advice on staying safe.

Steps to Protect Your Online Presence

Taking control of your online presence doesn’t have to be complicated. Here are some simple steps to get started:

1. Secure Your Social Media Accounts

• Set Accounts to Private: Make your social media accounts private so only approved followers can see your posts.
• Update Privacy Settings: Limit who can see your personal information, like your location, phone number, or email address.
• Remove Unwanted Followers: Block or unfriend anyone who you feel uncomfortable with, including your ex.
• Be Careful with Posts: Avoid sharing your location or details about your daily routine.

Learn more about healthy social media habits in our Guide to Post-Divorce Self-Care.

2. Change Your Passwords

• Use Strong Passwords: Choose passwords that are hard to guess, with a mix of letters, numbers, and symbols.
• Don’t Reuse Passwords: Use different passwords for each account to prevent a single breach from compromising multiple accounts.
• Enable Two-Factor Authentication (2FA): This adds an extra layer of security by requiring a code sent to your phone or email when logging in.

3. Check Your Devices for Spyware

• Scan for Malware: Use trusted antivirus software to scan your phone and computer for spyware.
• Reset Devices: If you suspect spyware, consider resetting your phone or computer to factory settings.
• Avoid Sharing Devices: Don’t let your ex or others use your devices, as they could install tracking software without your knowledge.

4. Turn Off Location Sharing

• Disable GPS Tracking: Turn off location services on apps unless absolutely necessary.
• Check Social Media Settings: Make sure your posts aren’t tagging your location automatically.
• Review Apps: Delete any apps you don’t recognize or no longer use.

5. Monitor Your Online Accounts

• Review Login Activity: Most platforms show login histories. Check for suspicious activity.
• Log Out of Old Devices: If you’ve shared devices in the past, log out from those accounts remotely.
• Change Security Questions: Update answers to security questions, especially if your ex might know personal details.

6. Be Mindful of Communication

• Create New Email Accounts: If your ex knows your email address, consider creating a new one for personal use.
• Avoid Sharing Sensitive Information: Be cautious about what you share via email or messaging apps.
• Block Unwanted Contacts: Use blocking features on social media, email, and phone apps to stop unwanted communication.

Final Thoughts: Reclaiming Your Digital Privacy

Protecting your online presence after divorce is an important step toward feeling secure and independent again. By following these simple steps, you can create digital boundaries that allow you to move forward without fear or stress.

Remember, you have the right to privacy and peace of mind. If you’re experiencing digital stalking, don’t hesitate to seek legal advice or report any illegal behavior. For more support, read our Guide to Rebuilding Confidence After Divorce.

Taking control of your digital life is empowering. It’s a step toward creating the safe, secure future you deserve.